There is a distinct difference between your 30's and your 40's. I've been in my 40's for a week now, so Im pretty sure I know what I'm talking about. And its weird, but in the last week I really have become a lot more aware of the differences.
I swear, and I just don't care. Sometimes the only thing that can make you feel better after an exasperating day is a long and soulful exclamation of "fuuuuuuuuuck". I'm fine with that. I like my salty language, and honestly I'm not looking for anyone's input on my vocabulary choices. If I feel the situation calls for a hearty "BOLLOCKS" then by gods I'm yelling "BOLLOCKS."
I'm sexy and I know it. Hawt is actually a better term. Beautiful. Majestic. Yes, I have a "strong" nose. Crooked front tooth. I'm fluffy at best. But my sexyness has so very little to do with my actual features, and EVERYTHING to to with my mental state and attitude. I'm amazing because I believe I'm amazing. And I am. Call it charisma, inner light, whatever you want. Maybe its just being comfortable in my own skin. But I've got it. And on that note...
I will wear what I want when I want to. Ill be honest, in my 20's i would not have ever worn leggings, but damn. 40 is all about the leggings. Most comfortable thing on the planet. I love them. Even jeans are becoming too binding anymore. Plus by wearing leggings I don't have to change before yoga. I'm already dressed! I'm not dressing FOR anyone, and I'm sexy no matter what I wear, so why not dress the way I want to?
I am never going to be a size 4 (and probably not even 10). I have been trying for over 20 years to loose 10-50 pounds. I weigh more now than I have any other time in my life other than in the third trimester of pregnancy. And honestly, I may never loose it. OK. I'm still healthy. I eat real food, and as little of it is processed as I can. And there's something that diet companies don't want you to know... food tastes good. Its super yummy. So as long as I'm healthy, who the fuck cares what size I am? Not me. Not my husband. Or my kids.
I'm not looking for outside approval. No, not even yours. I think turning 40 just made me more aware of who I am. I truly appreciate who I am. I am beautiful (see above), creative, talented, and amazing. And it'd OK that I recognize these qualities in myself. I doesn't seem to matter to me if no one else ever does. My favorite quote is Coco Chanel "I don't care what you think of me, I don't think of you at all."
Nothing on that list would have been possible even in my early 30's.
But at 40, I'm down with it.